Today I Learned . . . Giving Advice Takes Finesse

Nobody likes to be told what to do.

And many people don’t like to tell others what to do.

So what happens when providing that direction, or advice, is absolutely necessary, and you are the one that has to do it?

It takes a little finesse, but it can be done, without hurting anyone.

An initial consideration is to figure out if the advice is being solicited or being offered unsolicited.

If it is solicited, it should be offered in a kind, constructive manner and tone.

On the other hand, unsolicited advice is a completely different story.

The first and most important objective in that case should be to make sure the person  the advice is directed towards, understands that there is a good reason for it being offered.

Wouldn’t you want that courtesy if you were on the receiving end of unsolicited advice?

Wouldn’t you be more receptive to such advice if you knew the reason for it, or if you knew the person giving it really cared?

In personal matters, there may be or safety or emergency reasons behind it, or you’re a parent giving guidance to a child.  In business matters, you may be a supervisor or a boss , and you need a job done correctly.

Either way, that unsolicited advice will only be effective and accepted if it is offered with good intentions, expressed with encouragement and given in a positive way.

You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

Use a little finesse and others will be more receptive to your message.